Being around toxic people can drain your energy each day. Make you more stressed and negative about your life in general. Here are some tips on how to attract the right people into your life.

#1 Be that person

It is easy to say that I need to find friends who are ambitious, kind, interesting, and supportive. But are you that person? If you do not put the work into becoming what you want, it is hardly a surprise that you often find yourself around people with no drive. We attract who we are. So smile more if you want to be around optimists. Be active if you want to be around outgoing people. If you want to be around successful people, be ambitious. Be caring if you want to be pampered.

#2 Say it

In the book, The Power of your subconscious mind, the author brings out the importance of affirmations. Especially, the significance of reciting affirmations before going to sleep each day. What you end up doing is that you think about who you want to be with. Then you engrave it in your subconscious with affirmations. The subconscious then makes you take action to achieve the company you want. You might even wake up in the morning with solutions to problems you never knew you could solve. Visualization is another way of solidifying your dreams and beliefs. Either by creating posters, vision boards, or simply by following guided meditations that help you visualize.

#3 Connect

There is no self-development without taking action. Practice saying ‘hi’ to new people first. Be the initiator of conversations at gatherings. Get yourself out there. The action begins with intentions. Just because you met a few negative people, does not mean that you become cynical about every new person you meet. Believe there are good people. It is called “pronoia”. A person who has pronoia feels that the world around him conspires to do him good. Believe that a person is good unless proven otherwise. To connect with someone at a human level, you need to make efforts to remember names, habits, and favorites.

#4 Give attention

The world is experiencing a global pandemic right now. But there was already an invisible pandemic around us. It is the attention deficit pandemic. Listening is becoming more and more difficult for people these days. Listening with the intention of interrupting is not productive listening. Resist the urge to make the conversation about yourself. Engage by asking questions and finding out more. The more you listen the more you can find out about the interests and likes of this person. A simple step to start listening better would be to just set the phone aside. Keep it out of sight while talking. Don’t even keep it on the same table.

#5 Be open

Connecting or listening is supported by being more open. Friendship stems from disclosure. You disclose a bit about you and your friend does the same in return. Disclose to get close. Opening up means making yourself vulnerable. No wonder many people find it difficult to do. They would rather talk about superficial things like weather and cricket than more personal fears and dreams. Unless you open yourself and expose yourself to be vulnerable, your sincerity will not reach the heart of the person in front of you.

You are reading this because you are enthusiastic about meeting the right people for you. Take that enthusiasm and make it count. Hope you found this blog helpful. Please like, comment, and subscribe for more.